It is a tragic, criminal thing to use love as a weapon or tool of control and manipulation.
“If you love me you would…”, “I thought you said you loved me?”, “Well, I guess you don’t really love me or …”.
These phrases and others like them do not come from a heart of love, but a heart of lust.
Lust is the desire to benefit self even at the expense of others. Love is the desire to benefit others even at the expense of self.
Being loved and feeling loved should add value to your life. Being asked to give up something on someone’s timeline other then your own, does not add value, but takes it away.
Perverted love or lust not only devalues a person but it will also slowly poison a person. Love will turn into fear. The fear of rejection.
When the fear of rejection becomes a motivating force to stay in love, you have already lost love. ( if you ever had it.)
If you are asked to prove love… that is not love.
If your love causes you to feel worthless or devalued… that is not love.
If you are afraid of losing love… you might not be really experiencing it.
Remember, there is no fear in love. But perfect love casts out all fear.
